Keys to Being Set Free from Unforgiveness – Greg Gordon

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Freedom is something we take for granted. But talk with a man who was behind prison walls for most of his life. He will say that every breath, or sight of a blue sky, brings joy and excitement. Some believers have lived in bondage to unforgiveness and have almost forgotten the peace and joy of a life that forgives others.

The Good News of Jesus not only sets our consciences free from dead works and sins committed in the past, but it can also keep us clean and free of bitterness and unforgiveness in the present.

We will look at two keys to being free: blessing others and praying the Lord’s Prayer.

Blessing Like Joseph

Many of us have heard the dramatic story of Joseph in the book of Genesis. This young man was abused and sold into slavery by his jealous brothers. He suffered greatly in prison and in other circumstances. Finally, in an amazing turn of events, God brought him to a great place of prominence where he became one of the most powerful people in the known world. Many of us have had terrible things done to us in this life, and if we have not, just wait, it is coming.

This world is full of hurting lives that have been sinned against in great ways. Joseph had a terrible thing done to him. His brothers even contemplated murdering him in the beginning. Now he was in the position and had the power to exact perfect vengeance to them. But what did he do? He forgave them completely. He actually was in such a place of realizing God’s grace that he did not even bring up any of their sins and details of what they did. He just wanted to bless them! Jesus teaches us to bless our enemies (Matthew 5:44), to bless those who curse us (Luke 6:28, Romans 12:14), to “never avenge yourselves” (Romans 12:19). Joseph does not tell his brothers that he was the “one you sold into Egypt” to condemn them. Rather, he really wanted them to know he was their brother and that he loved them greatly still. How do we get to the place where we can bless others in the body of Christ who sin against us? How can we even get to the place where we can forgive enemies and bless them?

We are called to forgive but blessing seems like it’s too much. When we forgive at times we still secretly hope they will be exposed or judged for their sin, or that, at the judgment seat, they will get what’s coming to them. Such thinking is not forgiveness but a form of vengeance masked in a guise of spiritual humility. When we truly forgive someone as Christ forgives us, we need to come to the place where we can bless them and desire God’s blessing also on their lives.

Do you realize God will actually bless your enemies and pour his grace and favour on their lives?

Think of someone that you have ought against. Picture their face. Do you want that person to be blessed? It takes brokenness to bless others who hurt you. Joseph went through terrible circumstances but God was bringing him to a place of nothingness where he could share in the sufferings of Christ and have the heart of God. In the end when we bless and forgive others we will be blessed by God himself. God wants to anoint those who are free from bitterness in their Christian lives.

Perhaps its as simple as praying a prayer to God, “Lord please bless that person” (The person’s name).

 

Reciting the Lord’s Prayer

“And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors” (Matthew 6:12). Many godly believers in the past have recommended praying the Lord’s prayer multiple times a day. In many Church traditions, every Sunday the Lord’s prayer is recited. In the underground North Korean Church, they put emphasis on reciting the Lord’s Prayer together.

One of the benefits of this practice is that you can check your heart daily to see if you have any unforgiveness towards someone since our Lord shows us that we should expect God to forgive our debts as we also have done to others. Some brothers and sisters claim that they do not have unforgiveness towards an individual but their actions show they do have this poison still lurking within them.

The Lord has forgiven us and does not hold or accuse us over sins that have been forgiven, but when we say we forgive others, we still hold their sins to the light. Such is not true forgiveness. Only God is the one that can truly help someone that has sinned. When humans try to fix a problem without God it ends up getting much worse. When we forgive others, we also release ourselves from bondage and open the door for God to bring healing to our heart. When we hold onto bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness, we can suffer throughout life with problems and end up hurting ourselves much more.

John Chrysostom says,

“Just as maniacs, who never enjoy tranquility, so also he who is resentful and retains an enemy will never have the enjoyment of any peace; incessantly raging and daily increasing the tempest of his thoughts calling to mind his words and acts, and detesting the very name of him who has aggrieved him. Do you but mention his enemy, he becomes furious at once, and sustains much inward anguish; and should he chance to get only a bare sight of him, he fears and trembles, as if encountering the worst evils. Yet for the very torment resulting from the thing itself we ought to forgive the offences of those who have aggrieved us. What can be more senseless than the man, who both here and there brings punishment upon himself, while he thinks to be revenged upon his enemy?”

The Amplified Bible translation says, “Bless those who persecute you [who are cruel in their attitude toward you]; bless and do not curse them” (Romans 12:14). You cannot have forgiveness towards others and gossip about them.
To bless is to speak well of them; to curse is to speak in a wrong, accusing way. When we carry resentment for feeling we have been unfairly treated by another in the body of Christ we end up putting ourselves in harm’s way as well as hurting others. Unforgiveness is spiritual filthiness, a poison for your soul, a prison of torment. Forgive and give the individual to God and even have the grace to love and accept the individual again.

Being Set Free

Sometimes in life we live in such pain or have such ailments and problems that the thought of being free of it seems absurd. We start to normalize that which is abnormal. To hold unforgiveness is abnormal and, perhaps, through reading this short volume you have seen this afresh. Do not let the enemy of your soul, Satan, speak his lie that you cannot forgive or be forgiven.

Review and start to practice these steps daily:

1. Consider the coming of the Lord and that we should not be caught in unforgiveness with others (James 5:9).

2. Remember how much Christ suffered for you in the flesh and how we mar and hurt our Lord himself when we hold to bitterness (Ephesians 4:30-31).

3. Think on how much you sin and how terrible your sins are, judging yourself, not others (James 4:11-12).

4. Choose to bless (Romans 12:14) those who hurt you, praying for them and asking God to help them and show his grace to them.

5. Daily (perhaps 3 times a day), say the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-13) out loud with meaning.

6. Choose not to slander to speak evil of anyone (Colossians 3:8).
Prayer

Lord, we come to You honestly with a broken heart, realizing that we have held things against those whom you have fully forgiven.

Your servants in the Bible have gone through much greater problems than we have ever had to face. You saw them through their trials and difficulties, hurts and pains. Thank You for Your promise that you have forgiven all of our debts as we forgive our debtors. We choose today to forgive those who have hurt us in anyway.

Give us the ability to choose to always forgive and release others. Please bring back the peace in our life that was filled with bitterness and hurt. Help us to stay close to You and not stray in our hearts. We pray for the grace to find freedom from all forgiveness in our lives.

In the Name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit Amen.

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Unforgiving at the End of the Age

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St. Paul writes to Timothy giving us a picture of how it will look just before the second coming of the Lord. He shares that people will be “unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good” (2 Timothy 3:3).
 
In the end times there will be a great shift in how people live and act worldwide. Jesus spoke of children who will betray parents and how people will even want to put Christians to death (Matthew 24:9-10).
 
But we see the root of the issue in the attitudes of human hearts, and committed believers in Jesus Christ are not excluded. Not having love, not forgiving, and speaking evil of other good believers will be just part of the coming spirit of anti-Christ in the world.
 
Unforgiveness is a prison, a torturer. It will rob us of our joy, peace and even physical health. Jesus knew mankind and he knew that a great problem that many deal with is forgiving others. It is one of our Lord’s primary teachings and the apostles were very keen to this.
 
Peter said to Jesus in answer to his question of forgiveness, seven times! He understood that Jesus said to be extravagant in our forgiveness of others, and the current teaching by rabbis in that day was to forgive three times and then seek revenge. Our Lord’s response showed the extent of how God forgives and how those who claim to follow him should forgive, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times” (Matthew 18:22).
Our Lord is teaching that forgiveness is not optional. We should be like our Lord who forgives greatly, forgives deeply, and forgives the inexcusable.
 
Do you find it hard to forgive other brothers and sisters in the Lord? Do you find it hard to love others in the body of Christ because of hurtful things that were done to you? Are you speaking evil of those brothers and sisters and judging them? It is very important that we are clear of all such sin and are full of love, forgiveness and using our mouths to show mercy and love to others in order to restore them (Galatians 5:1).
 
Early believers lived in great anticipation of the coming of the Lord, and the thought of holding a grudge in unforgiveness with a believer and then entering eternity with this sin was unthinkable. In speaking about disputes, St. James writes, “Don’t grumble against one another” (James 5:9). The terrible reality to him was that the Judge was standing at the door, the Lord was coming back soon.

K.P. Yohannan: Overcoming Criticism in the Body of Christ

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K.P. Yohannan Founder of Gospel for Asia

Criticism is a great danger in the Church in our day where many are even thinking they are doing God a favour by being critical against others. K.P. Yohannan shares ways we can overcome criticism that is directed towards us and understand why people do these things so we can have empathy and compassion for them. Currently we are featuring on SermonIndex.net a sermon on Bitterness by K.P. Yohannan which goes into detail of why believers end up acting in these ways. Only with God’s help through forgiveness can we be freed of this sin and start to live in a way where we bless and not condemn others.

Read below what K.P. Yohannan says about Criticism:

In our world, it seems impossible to escape criticism. If we do poorly at school or at work, people will criticize us. Should we do well and excel in business, we still face criticism from people who are jealous of our success. It seems to be a favorite pastime of the human race to take one person after another, good or bad, and “skin them alive” with criticism.

What makes people act this way? Psychologists say one of the underlying reasons people criticize each other is to take revenge for the hurts they once received. Whether deserved or not, criticism is always painful. No one likes it. Yet people seem to enjoy themselves when others are cut down.

Most believers have accepted the fact that the world will criticize us regardless of how saintly we may live or how many charitable contributions we may make. However, I have found that the greatest shock and discouragement for believers come when they realize that they encounter this same heartless criticism from their brothers and sisters in the Body of Christ. Of course, God never meant this to happen. But many Christians have never allowed the Lord to cleanse their lives from this destructive behavior. It’s a very serious problem; and if it is not dealt with, it easily can destroy a church.

Imagine this: Jesus, the sinless Son of God, faced His worst criticism—not from the Roman government or from ungodly people—but from the most recognized and pious religious leaders of His nation. Paul experienced the same thing. His worst critics were people inside the Church, not the heathen he tried to win. In fact, he deals very thoroughly with this problem in his second letter to the church in Corinth.

Whether criticism comes from the world or from within the Church, it is important for us to know how we should respond to it.

Here are a few ways to Overcome:

1. Not To Pay Back – The Bible clearly instructs us in Romans 12:17 not to pay back evil for evil, which means we must not lash out and respond in anger in the same manner we were treated.

2. Maintain Love – On the contrary, God wants us to respond differently. We are to maintain our love for the brothers and trust the Lord to handle our defence. Only if we do this will the cycle of destructive criticism be broken.

3. Say No to Discouragement – The feelings of deep hurt and discouragement that follow criticism can easily bring us to a point of despair, giving up our calling or even suicide. In no way must we allow this to happen! If we give in, the enemy has reached his goal of stopping us from building God’s kingdom.

4. Look Objectively – The best we can do when we receive criticism is to look at it objectively. If the accusations are simply empty talk, we should dismiss them and by God’s grace go on with our life.

5. Be Willing to Change – Lastly, On the other hand, if there is any truth in the criticism, let us be willing to change, improve and grow in that area.

The Greatest Example Of Forgiveness

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But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. – Matthew 6:15

Lesson of Forgiveness

Sometimes the lesson of forgiveness can only be obtained through being the recipient of someone not being willing to forgive you. If we have been hurt in our past by someone we can be those who will not forgive others who hurt us.

When we do not release others we end up not releasing ourselves. Even physical ailments can be a result of this pent up hurt and unforgiveness that manifests itself in bitterness, envy, resentment and even anger. For a Christian to hold onto any grudge or anger towards someone in the body of Christ affects not just themselves but others are defiled by their sin. It is not only a sin to not forgive but as we do this we enter into the strategy of satan because the demonic world is a world of unforgiveness. Not offering forgiveness is to not offer the love of Christ to another believer.

We have received unmerited grace and forgiveness but then we say to someone “I will not forgive you,” we are doing what is opposite than Christ. When we do not forgive we show that we do not love Jesus because if we love him we will obey his commands. And his command is to forgive all.

Jesus Suffered On the Cross

Jesus on the cross suffered for your sins and he forgave you, he offered you this forgiveness and when we accept it, we become Christians. Jesus the Son of God on the cross was mocked, ridiculed and given a sponge with vinegar that some argue was used for cleaning in the washroom of Romans. If anyone had the right to be unforgiving, vengeful, angry and seek justice it would have been Jesus. But what is the reaction, he says “Forgive them.”

He says to God the Father please do not hold these things against those who have hurt me so much. Please not only that please put their punishment on me so that they can be set free. We can share in the heart of Jesus that through our pains and hurts we can be able to help set others free through bearing the hurt with the love of Jesus Christ. Does this excuse sin? No, but it does allow healing and help for those who sin and we become more like the character of God towards others. In the light of sins against Jesus Christ, the sins others do to us are very little.

The teaching of Jesus even goes further that if we do not release and forgive others, God will not forgive our sins or hold some of them against us. Lord, help me to forgive and fully release others as we all stand by your grace. Amen.